Stop Settling, Your Happiness Is Worth More Than You Know

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” – Frank Herbert, Dune

You.

You, reading this right now…

Why the fuck are you so afraid to go after the things that you want? Why are you so afraid?

Listen, I know you’re afraid, I know you’re scared. “What if I fuck it up?” “What if it is not what I wanted in the first place?” I know those fears, I used to have them myself. “If I go after this, my life will change forever.” “My husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend will leave me.” Believe me, I’m old friends with these fears.

I doubt you’ll read this. A busy life leaves very little time for reading articles posted by a bald writer who says the word “fuck” like it’s a god-damned comma. I get this, but I really hope you do read and absorb this. I hope it lights a fire under your ass and convinces you to choose to follow your heart and your own path.

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Newsflash: Life is Not Hard =)

Life+is+not+so+hard+at+all.+actually+it+s+pretty_100f47_4612911I’d like to share a revelation I had from a few days ago. A few days ago I realized that I was completely happy with my life. I was working in a job I enjoyed, around people I love and admire, making decent money. I had a beautiful, understanding and amazing wife with a kid equally as amazing. I live in an age where I can create anything I like at almost the ease to which I can think it up. I possess the equivalent of two college degrees and can easily remember 99% of what I’ve learned. I have a budding writing career that, while not successful in the monetary sense, nonetheless gives me a great sense of satisfaction.

I am living my life. My life is NOT being lived for me.

Overall, life is not hard. I would say that the complications people bring into their lives make it hard. For example, I find that the more dramatic people I bring into my life, the harder it gets to sift through the bullshit to the raw data of life. So, to remedy this, you get rid of those people. Quick, simple, and everyone’s happy. Well, everyone except those who get dropped from your life for being a drain on your sanity and resources. But, they’re not really people, so much as entities that need to be stopped.

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Inertia of Destiny

407494_323041394471205_1605404787_nIt’s been about 2 weeks since my last blog post, and really for no other reason that I’ve been busy. I’ve been taking care of my daughter and working on a few projects, while trying to find some kind of way to improve things in my life every day. Today it’s my mental state, as I’ve been slightly headfucked as of late. No big deal, just some internal shit I’m working on, essentially the ongoing revisionism of life. In that same vein, I’d like to talk about something I call the “inertia of destiny”. I don’t even believe in “destiny” in the sense of an inevitable end result of your life. I mean it in the sense of the end result of your life that is essentially what YOU make of it.

However, I am one of those who believe that every once in a while destiny needs a bit of help and the universe steps in to this function. Being an atheist, I realize what this sounds like. It sounds like I’m referring to some kind of naturalistic God that steps in and helps when you need it.

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Scared and Excited – I’m Doing Morning Pages from “The Artist’s Way”

1375566172716This morning I started reading “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron (up to the end of week 1), and I have to say I’m really looking forward to the journey of using this book. I first became aware of this book through an article by Mandy Stadtmiller  about how morning pages helped to give her career and creativity a big lift, and I figured I’d give it a try.

 Having just finished my first actual “book”, not a collection of stories and detritus, I felt like I could actually call myself a writer, but I had massive issues with thinking of an idea and following the idea through to its conclusion. See right there, I stopped midway through my previous thought, to see if I was using the proper wording I wanted. These are the kinds of things that would fuck me up. That, and being distracted by Twitter. But, baby steps. One habit at a time. Hesitation is the habit I’m working on now. I’ll tackle my social media addiction another day.

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5 Things That I Learned From Hulk Hogan

This dude could whoop your ass...
This dude could whoop your ass…

I read the Hulkster’s book about a month ago, having seen it on the shelf at a local bookstore. Being a MASSIVE fan, I immediately picked it up and started reading it in the adjacent coffee shop. A mere 3 hours later, I had read the book cover to cover and was looking forward to reading it that night, more thoroughly. When I finally did this, I realized there were so many facets to this book, I needed to read it yet again.

As with many books I read, I took notes. My notes were basically just things I wanted to remember. Lessons, if you will. I realized that what I saw on the legal pad after I was finished my 3rd read was not just a pathway to success. It was a road-map to being an amazing person. So, here’s basically a more codified version of my notes in the form of 5 things I learned from the greatest icon in sports entertainment.

By the way, buy his book. Seriously, it’s not just an autobiography, it’s literally a dude pouring his heart and soul onto 300 pages. I was moved to tears on more than one occasion.

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Making Better Decisions to Accomplish Your Goals

9043902Reading Facebook this morning, I came across someone who did an update something like this, “I am not in control of my life.” This kind of broke my heart a bit.

I’m curious as to how people don’t feel as if they are in control of their own lives. Going with the flow is NOT a human trait that came with the package of birth, it is a learned behavior that is given to you by your environment and those you associate with. So, what we’re going to do in this article is discuss the ways that I make decisions to take control of my life. Maybe you’ll decide that this might work for you, maybe not. But, either way take control of your life and make the decisions that are right for YOU.

1. Decide what you want. What are your short term goals. Lose 30 pounds? Get a better job? Well, for most people, myself included, deciding what you want is the second hardest part of decision making. Being exact about what you want gives you a focal point for your efforts. So set a goal right now. Doesn’t matter what it is.

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A Little Experiment with 24 Hours to Live

What are you looking for in your life?

What drives you to get up in the morning?

What do you hope to accomplish everyday?

Can you answer these very basic questions? Can you sit down and think objectively about what would make you happy as a human being? (Provided you’re not happy now, that is….) Can you dedicate yourself to finding out what the hell it is you want from this life?

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Get The Hell Up!!!

9042206This week I have seen a common theme among my friends and family. This notion of putting things off until later, the constant procrastination of one’s desire to either better themselves, or just do something that makes them happy. The motivation to take advantage of your life and mold it to your image seems to be lacking among my friends and family.

  • The want to lose weight or become healthier.
  • The want to start or finish a project.
  • The need to make better decisions.
  • The want for greater and better things.
  • The time to enjoy the things you already have.

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