“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” – Frank Herbert, Dune
You, reading this right now…
Why the fuck are you so afraid to go after the things that you want? Why are you so afraid?
Listen, I know you’re afraid, I know you’re scared. “What if I fuck it up?” “What if it is not what I wanted in the first place?” I know those fears, I used to have them myself. “If I go after this, my life will change forever.” “My husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend will leave me.” Believe me, I’m old friends with these fears.
I doubt you’ll read this. A busy life leaves very little time for reading articles posted by a bald writer who says the word “fuck” like it’s a god-damned comma. I get this, but I really hope you do read and absorb this. I hope it lights a fire under your ass and convinces you to choose to follow your heart and your own path.
I hear all day about excuses to not pursue something that you want. “I don’t have enough time”, “my life will change”, “I don’t want him/her to leave me.” Bullshit.
“The only things keeping you from the things you want are the stories you tell yourself about why you don’t have them.” – Tony Robbins
You have the power to determine your fate. Only YOU, no one else. How do you do this?
You make a decision. I don’t mean you choose one or the other. I mean you choose what direction you go and allow life to react accordingly. For example. Let’s say you want to be a professional writer. Well, you make that decision, you follow it up with some steps (namely starting to write and send your shit out) and integrate that into your life. You become what you already were, but you add this into it.
Some people can’t handle it. Some people can’t help but resent the fact that you’re not living your life for them anymore. Fuck those people. All of them.
Every. Last. One. Of. Them.
The fact that someone has an issue with the way you want to live your life is proof enough that they shouldn’t share it with you. But, don’t give in to it. Don’t listen to the voices telling you that the way you want things is not good enough. It’s good enough for you and that’s all that matters. If you want something, go after it. Period. The world will either applaud you, or mock you. In either case, you’re doing what is in your nature to do, and if you’re doing what’s in your nature to do, you cannot fail.
“There isn’t enough time.” Bullshit. You have the same amount of time as everyone else.
“This will uproot my life.” Yeah, you wanted a change. You can’t change something and have things remain the same way. If you wanted something more, it means you weren’t satisfied with the way you felt about the same old routine. You WANTED a change. You NEEDED a change. Nothing changes without consequence, but as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, the changes are worth it. One day you’ll wake up and realize, “Holy shit, I’m happy.” 🙂
“My [insert significant other here] will leave me.” Above everything else, if your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband does NOT want you to pursue things that would make you happy, then they’re a piece of shit and don’t want you to move forward. These are people that aren’t worth having in your life. The only people you should have around you are people that encourage you to live out your goals and dreams. If they’re not on the sidelines cheering you on, or not on the track helping you, get rid of them.
“What if I fuck it up?” Yeah, what if you do. Then you will be exactly where you were before you started, with a yearning that won’t go away. Then, you can start over. This is a non-fear and not worth giving in to.
“What if it turns out that it’s not what I wanted?” Well, if it isn’t exactly what you wanted, it will bring you closer to an understanding of what you DO want.
Stop worrying about about the chasm, and just jump. “Leap, and the net will appear.” If you are one of those people who would rather live out the rest of your life with a hum-drum existence, fair enough. Some people’s lives are meant to be cautionary tales to mediocrity. But, I know that I would rather have a life of “why not” rather than regretting not taking the chance in the first place.
You have a hundred years on this planet, at best. Make sure you’re not short changing yourself by talking yourself out of the things you want. You are worth it and your time is even more rationed than you think.
If you want something different, then get something different and apologize to no one. Live your life based on YOUR terms, and YOUR convictions and if someone has an issue with the way you want to live, then they need to go. Nothing in this world is worth sacrificing your birthright to have your life exactly the way you want it. Don’t settle; RISE.
Get the hell up and claim your life out of the hands of those who would only suppress your urges and yearnings for something more. If you give in to the whims of others, you’re ignoring your call to something more.
If you need me, I’m here. I’ll guide you through your problems. You KNOW I’m here. Let’s chase down the sunset together. Let’s get you what you really want.